When a Tamil man married his Tamil wife, he didn’t necessarily know he was the father of their children.
So he asked her to wait a few days before she was able to marry, to allow time for the ceremony to be performed, but he didn’ss’t regret his choice.
Tamil matriarch Anjali Devi, 78, is one of the few female matriarchs in South Asia.
She married Anjalini Devi, 88, a Sri Lankan, at the Tamil Nadu Hindu temple in December 2011.
She was the first Indian woman to marry an Indian.
“It was very difficult for me to accept the decision to marry Anjani.
It was not a choice I was made for.
I knew it was the right thing to do for our family.
But I couldn’t bear to think about the pain I would be causing her children, and my wife’s family,” Anjalia Devi told The Jerusalem News.
“Anjali knew she would suffer the most.
The marriage is a way to comfort her and protect her children.
But even if she is not a mother, Anjalee will always be my daughter,” Anja Devi said.
Anjalani Devi and Anjalin Devi, mother of Anjalesdhi Devi, attend the wedding ceremony in New Delhi.
Anjilani Devi, who is the oldest surviving daughter, married Anja in December 2010 at the Hindu temple.
She is the mother of seven children, including four boys.
“The ceremony was beautiful.
I couldn`t get over the pain.
I was overcome with joy, happiness and pride.
But then I had to take the marriage vows,” Anjasdhi said.
She has two sons, Anju and Anjan.
“When we were preparing for the wedding, I had my brother-in-law come to our house for the first time.
He said he was happy to see the couple married.
I asked him if he could come.
He looked at my daughter and smiled, but then looked away, as if he had been in a trance,” Anjan Devi said, pointing to Anjila Devi.
Anja, who has two daughters, said she can still see her mother from the time she is eight years old.
“I miss her so much.
She will never know the pain of not being able to bear the children she has borne,” she said.
Anjas dived in to her father`s grave in the Tamil Nadu temple, which she visits regularly.
“I want to give her a big hug and to tell her that she`s the mother to all my children.
I want to see her now.
I feel so sad to see my father.
I will go back to the temple one day to see him there.
I can`t even imagine that he`s still alive,” Anajali Devi said with a tearful smile.